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Pianist and DMA, Juilliard School

I initially began coaching because my boyfriend, a big fan of Astrid's, saw that I was confused about a lot of things regarding the direction my life was taking career-wise.  He purchased five coachings for me for my birthday with the caveat that nothing was binding and that I could opt out any time if I felt uncomfortable.  From my very first session, it was clear that Astrid is one of the most insightful and generous people I have met.  I walked into this session last fall, thinking that I had come to a dead-end in my music career and that perhaps I would benefit from heading in a new direction.  After only a couple sessions, I renewed my sense of love for music and began to see possibilities for myself that I never dreamed of.  Astrid is extremely dedicated and focused in each session.  One major breakthrough I have had is the idea that being authentic is a major value for me and that I have spent so much of my life trying to please others or do activities I feel like I "should" do.  I feel like I have blossomed in so many ways this year, taking on creative projects that I might have been cautious of before, meeting incredible colleagues, and being excited about the future instead of fearful of it.  Astrid has a great gift of seeing the beauty in each person and allowing their strengths to come through.

— JC, New York, NY

 

Composer

Astrid has turned around the way I look at my career in the most extraordinary way.  I used to think that the professional part of what I do was very separate from the creative and deeply personal aspects of being a composer.  Going after professional opportunities to get my music out there felt to me like a very daunting task--one that I found a little distasteful because it felt like "selling myself."  Astrid really helped me realize that building a career has to come from the most genuine part of myself--in the same way as building a piece.  With this understanding, the professional world looks much less scary to me now, and I'm able to reach out to my professional network with the courage of my conviction, and with the kind of personal investment and care that makes professional experiences deeply meaningful.  Career building is about believing in what you do, and its validity; it is about communication and courage.  It only works if it feels true to who you are.

With her supportive and positive attitude combined with her incredible sensitivity and intelligence, Astrid has created for me a wonderful safe space to discover how I want to develop my goals from the inside out.  I have found in her a true kindred spirit as well as a powerful ally and coach.  

—Hannah L,. New York, NY


 

 

Attorney and ??????

There seem to be an infinite number of resources available to people looking to make career changes these days, and I think I looked into most of them before I met Astrid. Numerous books advised me to do what I loved.  That sounded good, except that I didn’t know what I loved. A career test provided some insight and long lists of possibly compatible jobs, but ultimately directed me to do what I loved - back to square one.  Another career coach, dispensing with frivolities like love, laid out a practical approach to a career path that objectively made some sense, but I knew in my heart that I would hate it.  I felt deficient for not knowing what I loved, unreasonable for rejecting a sensible path that didn’t appeal, and in general, completely hopeless about my situation.

When I began coaching with Astrid, I was struggling with a strong feeling that there was some ‘perfect’ thing out there for me to do, if only I could think of what it was.  I had a vague idea that finding the answer would involve going through the racks of possible jobs and holding each one up in front of the mirror to see if it might fit, but I was pleasantly surprised to find that we would take a more bespoke approach.  There would be no squeezing me into a readymade career in this process - instead, we would be focusing on my strengths, values, work style, etc., to think about what might be right for me.  Astrid’s willingness to cheerfully abandon any exercise that wasn't working for me kept me comfortable with everything we did, and helped me to get the most out of the process.  

The work we did helped me to form a foundation for understanding why certain things, career-related or otherwise, are a better choice for me than others.  With Astrid’s warm encouragement, I have also started to reconnect with the creative, less self-limiting side of myself that I feared was permanently lost.  I feel more like myself than I have in a long time, and I have a career direction that I am looking forward to exploring.  This may or may not turn out to be the ‘perfect thing‘ that I was looking for, but I no longer feel the pressure of that search; rather, I am hopeful that by taking actions that are consistent with my character, staying open to the possibilities that arise with each action, and correcting my course as necessary, I will enjoy the process just as much as whatever result I reach.  I am grateful to Astrid for helping me to readjust my direction and my outlook, and I highly recommend her services to anyone who feels lost, stuck or anything less than wholeheartedly enthusiastic about what they are doing.   

— Andrea K., New York, NY

 

Cellist and music entrepreneur

A good friend recommended I see Astrid because I was stuck. Stuck. Stuck. Stuck, and suffering. She has helped me parse through all the detail in what seemed panoramic hopelessness. She has worked in a distinctly different way than my psychotherapist, more pragmatically, and the combination of the two ... has been, for me, very effective. I have made tectonic shifts in the way I see myself, my place in the world and how I move through it. There have been some very painful changes and realizations, but most important, I have found a source for joy, hope and energy, undiluted by difficulties, so that I actually feel better, and stronger. This is my testimony to Astrid.

— TM, Rhode Island

 

 

Educator

Astrid Baumgardner is a true facilitator, and in that capacity she has guided me to discover the values and deeply held beliefs essential to my happiness and fulfillment in the workplace, wherever it may be....Through our coaching sessions, I was able to draw out and fortify my self-confidence, without which my ambitious relocation would not previously have been conceivable. When you are determined to strive diligently for change in your life, Astrid will be there to help you to create a roadmap to navigate and overcome every obstacle you encounter throughout your life-altering transition.

— MH, New York, NY and Tokyo, Japan

 

 

Declutter and Open Yourself Up for Success

Welcome to 2011!

Are you one of those folks who made a solemn New Year’s Resolution that this is the year that you will lose 10 pounds, start working out or learn French? 

How long has this been on your list?  And what’s your pattern? 

If you are like many people, you devote yourself to this new activity for the month of January and then, a month later, that life-changing resolution has fallen by the wayside.  Often, these new goal are “shoulds” or are motivated by fear rather than things that you genuinely want.  Another reason is that you may not have cleaned up your house enough to let in new habits.  Think about all the things that are sucking the energy out of you and do not leave you with enough time or energy to devote to your authentic self.  You may not even have the energy to contemplate your authentic self.  So instead of making a lofty New Year’s Resolution, maybe what you need to do is to declutter and get rid of that negative energy.

The first step is to take inventory of all the things in your life that are sapping your energy.

Start with your career. What is going on at work that drains your energy?  A messy desk?  An impossible co-worker?  Projects that are going nowhere?  A sense that you are in the wrong job?  Any of these can weigh you down and make it hard for you to move forward with your life. 

Same thing with your home:  the chair that needs to be recovered?  A broken stove?  A broken home life?

Relationships?  Who are the crazy-makers in your life?

Health, personal habits, finances, lifestyle?  Write them all down.

Use the following chart to take stock:

The following things are draining my energy:

At work:

At home

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My relationships:

My health and personal habits:

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My finances:

My lifestyle:

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Take a look at your list.  Circle the top three things that are draining your energy the most: the three things that if you could clean up would have the greatest positive impact on your well-being and your ability to move forward. Notice your feelings about each one of these items.  These are likely to be the things that you have been procrastinating about.  Understandably, you have been avoiding them because they are often hard to overcome.  Think about why you have been avoiding them.  And consider the impact that they are having on your life.

Once you see how much of a negative impact they are having on you, chances are that you will be more motivated to get rid of them! 

What can you delegate?  Routine boring tasks that take you away from the best of yourself?  How about the things that you simply are not good at?  Isn’t it worth hiring someone to do those things or even bartering with someone who has a skill set that you do not have and that is causing you endless stress?

What are you afraid of taking on?  Often, simply by articulating your fears, you can often see what is possible to be done.

What can you not change?  Sometimes, accepting a situation that is out of your control is enough to give you peace of mind to move on and take on the challenge of something that you can change.

Now set some realistic goals around those areas that you have decided to take on.  Break them down into manageable action steps.  And start taking weekly actions.  

Congratulations!  You are now on the road to removing your blocks to success.  Keep up your decluttering project.  Chances are that you will now be much more likely to get to the gym or sign up for that class!

© Astrid Baumgardner 2011

 

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Astrid Baumgardner, JD, PCC is a professional life coach and lawyer, Coordinator of Career Strategies and Lecturer at the Yale School of Music and the founder and President of Astrid Baumgardner Coaching + Training, which is dedicated to helping musicians, lawyers and creative professionals take charge of their lives and experience authentic success.  In addition to her work at YSM and her individual coaching practice, Astrid presents workshops at leading conservatories and law firms on topics including Career Planning, Goal-Setting, Time Management, Dynamic Communication, Conflict Management and  Personal Branding and Networking.  She is the author of numerous articles on the various aspects of how to achieve and live authentic success.